October 5, 2017 ·
DeAngelo Wiser
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DeAngelo Wiser
wisersportsleadership.com
What exactly is a hungry team and what does it look like? Are we able to recognize it? Have you shared the term and concept with your team?
We know that great talent trumps average talent most of the time, but what about teams that are evenly matched? We hear a lot about one team out working or being more determined than the other, and that’s how they come out on top. Where does that determination originate? Is it the personality of the team, the leader, their work ethic in practice or an obsession with what they are determined to accomplish?
I believe it comes from a deep-rooted hunger driven by many factors. Have you witnessed a game where one team seems totally committed to winning every 50/50 ball, every ball out of the air and plays with reckless abandon? Where does that drive come from? Is it a natural trait in some players? Why doesn’t every team have it or play this way?
Teams can often become content simply staying where they are with no drive or hunger to accomplish more, regardless of our efforts. Why is that? Often it’s what we allow them to do, giving in to mediocrity and comfort. Plus some players may not want to pay the price for attempting greatness knowing how much effort is required or the heartache if they come up short.
Why should they be hungry? We live in a society where compliments and encouragement dominate even when not merited while reality and honest appraisal are frowned on for potentially hindering self-esteem. As a coach we need to know which players have or are capable of developing hunger. Why? They’re the foundation of what we want to build and possibly the leaders we need to push us to greatness.
How can we create and develop a hunger in our team? Let’s look at some ideas:
1. Culture- Create a culture where losing without complete effort isn’t comfortable or accepted. A price must be paid for losing in competitive activities in practice. Not demeaning, just demanding. Build a practice environment that carries over to the game. Players need to learn that losing isn’t fun.
2. Bad losses- If your team played poorly or needs motivating, keep reminders of what they gave up or the score of a bad loss in the locker room. Hungry players won’t like it and will be motivated to prove doubters wrong. Avoid making excuses for the team and own it.
3. Benefits- Can you convey to your players why they should work hard to achieve greatness? Many have no clue what greatness is. Can you paint a picture or bring in others who have been there? Hold that vision up every day.
4. Reward- Highlight players who embrace hunger. Reward their determination. They may or may not have the talent of other players, but they represent what you’re building and want to see.
5. Model Relentlessness- Be relentless with every aspect of your coaching. Hunger starts with you. Set the standard and model it. When you’re satisfied with less than the best, your players will be as well. Keep your hunger burning bright as an example for your players. There will be days when it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
6. Honest/Real- Be upfront with players concerning their performance and efforts. If they aren’t carrying their weight they need to know it. If they need to sit out a game or lose their starting position, take care of it. When you talk with under performing players do it in a professional manner in your office away from the rest of the team.
7. Warriors- Designate one or two practices a week for 1 V 1 or 2 V 2 wars. When you establish an environment where players are competing against each other with a price for losing, you’re building hunger. You’ll readily see the warriors on your team, and their fire must spread to the rest of the team.
8. Adversity- Take your team to a homeless shelter or bring in a guest speaker who is battling adversity. Let them see what real, everyday hunger is, the ability to survive or the effort it takes to get through a day. They need to know what you’re asking is possible and how blessed they are to be able to attempt it.
9. Championship Venue- If you didn’t reach the championship game, take your team to see what it’s like. They need to experience all the fans, the glitz and glamour, the recognition the players receive and the jubilation of the winning team. Hopefully the experience will build hunger in your team to reach this level of greatness. They need to also know that teams that win it all will always be remembered and their legacy celebrated with reunions. If all else fails, show them a championship ring and remind them how good it would look on them.
You come to work every day with a hunger to lead your team to greatness. Frustration can grow when you don’t see the same hunger or drive in your team. How can they possibly know if they haven’t experienced it? Never stop sharing your vision of what hunger looks like.
It will take every ounce of energy you have, every moment of maintaining composure and the ability to make tough decisions to build a hunger in your team. Does it mean you’ll win a championship? No, but your team will know they gave it all they had every day, and left it all on the field. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
I wish you and your team the best in the post season!
September 14, 2017 ·
DeAngelo Wiser
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DeAngelo Wiser
I’ve made a lot of mistakes over my career, but the great thing about it is, I’ve learned from every one of them. It’s how we all learn–through experience. Simply said, if you aren’t making mistakes, you’re not trying to do something new and challenging.
Our players are the same way. They make mistakes throughout a game. As coaches, we can usually trace unfavorable performances to a series of mistakes over the course of a game. You just hope that one of them isn’t the obvious deciding factor in a game.
NEVER LET A MISTAKE BREAK YOUR SPIRIT………..
We were in the final eight of the state playoffs, doing our best to break through to the final four, where we had never been. Our path had been cleared, no perennial powerhouse in our way as in previous years. Our opponent was an excellent team, ranked in the top 10, but a mental roadblock had been lifted from our players’ minds when our more feared adversary lost. This would be our best chance at achieving our goal.
We lost our goalkeeper in a freak accident before the playoffs began, but we didn’t lose a step as we captured the district and regional titles. One of our field players, who also played softball, stepped in the frame. She was doing an excellent job, although lacking the decision making experience we needed this time of year in big games. That concerned me.
What a great match up this game turned out to be. They were pushing forward with numbers and attacking our goal, and we were counter attacking with our speed. On one of their runs they sent a ball into a crowded box. Naturally our new keeper wanted to hug her line rather than go to the ball. When that happened one of our defenders tried to clear the ball out, but her body was angled toward the goal, and when she didn’t get her hips turned, she knocked it in the goal. Our team looked on in disbelief. The player hung her head and was in tears.
But there was still time left in the first half, no time to get down or dwell on what we couldn’t control at this point. We had to regroup, refocus and play on. That would be easier said than done. For the next few minutes the halftime horn couldn’t sound quickly enough. After defending out-of–our-mind for the remainder of the half, we escaped with the score still 1-0.
I did the best I could to console and let our player know that she had done all she could, and we needed her focused for the second half to pull this game out. Her teammates did the same. We talked about areas we could exploit the next half, and what we could improve on.
The second half was tremendous for us. We did all we could to score, and our defenders kept them out of the goal. However it wouldn’t be enough as the score ended up 1-0. After the game I did my best to talk with our team, consoling each player, and especially our player who had made the mistake, explaining that we wouldn’t even have been in this game without her, but I knew it wasn’t enough.
Nothing you can say can make the pain and realization go away. I’m thankful this particular player had a strong family who could handle this in a positive and loving manner.
In our game, mistakes happen in rapid fire succession. Some players pause or get frustrated, and, by the time they snap back, the ball is gone and the chance to win it back has disappeared. It’s not the mistake that’s crucial, it’s how you deal with it that’s important. The sooner you can let the mistake go, and refocus on what needs to be done next, the sooner you’ll be successful. Great players do this automatically.
I once heard the analogy of a fighter pilot who, while flying missions, barely clipped some small trees, causing no damage. Traveling at tremendous speed, he had no time to dwell on that situation because it was gone and now other obstacles and challenges were in front of him. If his focus had been on that mistake, he surely would have crashed.
As coaches we have to teach our players how to deal with mistakes.
1. Mistakes are a natural part of any game.
2. Don’t take mistakes personally.
3. Getting frustrated hurts you and your team.
4. Showing frustration helps the opposition.
5. There’s no time to dwell on mistakes during a game.
6. Play thru the mistakes as if they never happened.
7. React immediately in a determined manner and move on.
8. Talk positively to yourself.
9. After the game evaluate your performance.
What about the coach on the sideline? Have you witnessed a game in which the goalkeeper gave up an easy chance, the other team scored, and the coach lost his or her composure? When that happens we forever alter the path that our players take. Some may leave the game entirely, while others will always want to play it safe and never take chances for fear of your or another coaches’ wrath. We need to recognize those situations and do our best to control our emotions.
How can we improve our reaction to mistakes as coaches:
1. Players are the first to know they made a mistake. They don’t need a loud reminder.
2. Be aware of negative body language on the sideline. Throwing your hands in the air, putting your hands in your face, or simply refusing to look their way says more than any words could ever say.
3. Encourage your players, even if it’s tough in a difficult situation. They need your support then more than ever.
4. If possible, don’t pull them immediately out of the game. It magnifies the mistake and situation. If you feel you must make a change, try to do it after several minutes when the mistake has died down.
5. When you have the time to talk with them, let them tell you what happened before you say anything. I guarantee they knew the right thing to do, but just didn’t do it.
6. If it’s a traumatic mistake or a game winner for the other team, show your support in a caring manner. There are no magic words in those situations. They need to know you still believe in them.
When you watch successful teams, you soon notice that the ability to play through mistakes is obvious. On some nights the mistakes are more numerous than others, but their demeanor and mission is the same–to stay focused on winning the ball and the game.
As coaches, we have control over our players’ reaction to mistakes. We often lose sight of this vital aspect of the game in a rush to work on technique and tactics in practice. Take the time today to stop play when a situation presents itself in which a player reacts positively to a mistake. The picture you paint may make a difference in your season.
I wish you and your team the best!
September 7, 2017 ·
DeAngelo Wiser
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DeAngelo Wiser
If you’ve coached for a season or a career, you’ve had players that had all the physical attributes and skills necessary to be a top player but for some reason always fell short. Why is that?
As coaches, we often create a vision of what a certain player can accomplish or what they should become as a veteran. We see them carrying our team in tough moments, scoring the game winner, making a great save or defensive play and ultimately being the missing piece we’ve always needed to win a title.
Are we wrong to have those thoughts, or put that kind of pressure on an unproven player? What about the athlete? What is his or her self image as a player? Have you asked them?
At what point should you expect great things from these players? And what happens when they continually are just average? Are you tougher on them than any of your other players? Is it wrong to expect so much? How can you convince them of what you see, and what they can become?
Let’s explore some reasons athletes might not live up to expectations:
1. Our initial expectations may be overwhelming.
2. It’s our vision, not theirs.
3. Their perception of their ability is low.
4. They simply may not embrace the pressure it includes.
5. The potential cost in friendships and sacrifice is too high.
6. Their passion for the game is not the same as yours.
7. Their work ethic at this point is very low.
8. They would rather “fit in” than “stand out”.
9. Our constant pressure is driving them away.
So how can we build a positive experience and help each player reach his or her potential?
1. Meet with them, listen to their vision of what they see, and share yours.
2. Find out why they play the game, and what inspires them.
3. Set a time table with the player of check points for progress.
4. Give them permission to stand out, letting them know how it benefits their teammates.
5. Keep them on track with respect to their work ethic.
6. Be patient, this is a long-term project that may have setbacks.
7. Teach them how much humility, relentlessness and passion play a role in their journey.
8. Encourage, Encourage, Encourage.
9. Avoid buying in when they want to give up. They need you to be strong. They’ll thank you later.
Remember the players you’ve coached and the ones in which you saw so much potential. Did they reach it? Very often the answer is no. So many variables are not in your control, but that fact doesn’t help you resolve that feeling of disappointment when they fall short.
She was a truly gifted player. At practice, Grace could strike a ball better than any player we had ever had, and her knowledge of the game at that age was unheard of. She was an eighth grader, and a natural. As I shook hands with the private school’s coach before the Varsity game, he commented, “Wow! Our Varsity players who watched the JV game were amazed at your player’s ability. They were asking why she wasn’t playing Varsity, and I reminded them that she was probably only an eighth grader.” He was right, and yes, we were all impressed. I could hardly wait until next year when Grace would be in high school and could move up to Varsity.
Later in the year, we were runners-up to a perennial private school power in a very prestigious JV tournament. We thought it was a glimpse of our future. But, after that, things just fell apart for her outside of the game. Her career was not to be.
As coaches our focus can be narrow with only thoughts of the game and our team, when in reality players have other challenges to face every day. Our vision of them must always include other aspects of their life, and how we can help when needed.
Recognizing their potential is the easy part. Guiding them within and outside the game to reach it is the challenge.
Keep inspiring and I wish you and your team the best!
